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When your kids did something good, do not only simply say" good job", show more interest by asking" how did you do it" " Can you show me" " Why you did it this way", so those questions will get your kids talk about things that they are good at, in turn this will boost their self-confidence.
假设我们连 “good job“都不说，而是告诉孩子那样做不好，如何如何做更好，或者说作业没做完不许玩，孩子会不会更容易不自信，更不愿意告诉别人他们的想法？
下面是 torontolife 网友的两个帖子。
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That's exactly what my daughter was. She was very shy and can't speak for herself, she wanted to do something but always scared to go..., there is no short-time solution at all
torontolife (Lilian)
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My daughter is now almost 12 , very active at school, almost joined all the school social activities ( volleyball, cross country, folk dance, French speach etc.), you name it, she has it. Our method is - don't push the child, but take her/him out of your house to anywhere, library, playground, science center etc. Anywhere that she or he will learn something exciting & new and also has chances to meet people. Don't push him to say hello if he is shy. Don't tell other people that your kid is shy , especially in front of him.
I think it is showing that the kid is nervous and lack of self-confidence. the only thing you can build up his confidence is to be patient and praise him every time he does something good, encourges him to try new things and make sure you provide him chances to learn new/exciting thing and meet more people.
this is what our family has done since she was about 4 years old, i still say that she is not 100% there yet, but I believe that we have achieved a lot over the year. She is happy, healthy and famous in her school as well.
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Over the years, I had doubt, I almost gave up & I also called her "Chicken", but once my frustration bursted,
torontolife (Lilian)
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I would go back to take her to whereever I promised or planned. Only parents with kids like those would understand the frustration I have experienced. Shy is not bad, a kid could be shy but still confident.
When your kids did something good, do not only simply say" good job", show more interest by asking" how did you do it" " Can you show me" " Why you did it this way", so those questions will get your kids talk about things that they are good at, in turn this will boost their self-confidence.
My kids will grow happy, healthy and full, with good personality and confidence to try things new. I don't take the marks seriously , does not mean that i don't take her education seriously. At their age ( 4-12), how to get them interest in learning is the most important part, not how many 'A"s she has got or how many Kumon classes she has taken.
So work with your kids, guide her or him and show her/him what they can achieve ( even tiny thing), you will open their minds and that will lead them to greater success in life ( not only a good job, good money, but good life)
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When your kids did something good, do not only simply say" good job", show more interest by asking" how did you do it" " Can you show me" " Why you did it this way", so those questions will get your kids talk about things that they are good at, in turn this will boost their self-confidence.
假设我们连 “good job“都不说，而是告诉孩子那样做不好，如何如何做更好，或者说作业没做完不许玩，孩子会不会更容易不自信，更不愿意告诉别人他们的想法？
下面是 torontolife 网友的两个帖子。
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That's exactly what my daughter was. She was very shy and can't speak for herself, she wanted to do something but always scared to go..., there is no short-time solution at all
torontolife (Lilian)
＜本文发表于: 相约加拿大:枫下论坛 www.rolia.net/f ＞
My daughter is now almost 12 , very active at school, almost joined all the school social activities ( volleyball, cross country, folk dance, French speach etc.), you name it, she has it. Our method is - don't push the child, but take her/him out of your house to anywhere, library, playground, science center etc. Anywhere that she or he will learn something exciting & new and also has chances to meet people. Don't push him to say hello if he is shy. Don't tell other people that your kid is shy , especially in front of him.
I think it is showing that the kid is nervous and lack of self-confidence. the only thing you can build up his confidence is to be patient and praise him every time he does something good, encourges him to try new things and make sure you provide him chances to learn new/exciting thing and meet more people.
this is what our family has done since she was about 4 years old, i still say that she is not 100% there yet, but I believe that we have achieved a lot over the year. She is happy, healthy and famous in her school as well.
＜本文发表于: 相约加拿大:枫下论坛 www.rolia.net/f ＞
Over the years, I had doubt, I almost gave up & I also called her "Chicken", but once my frustration bursted,
torontolife (Lilian)
＜本文发表于: 相约加拿大:枫下论坛 www.rolia.net/f ＞
I would go back to take her to whereever I promised or planned. Only parents with kids like those would understand the frustration I have experienced. Shy is not bad, a kid could be shy but still confident.
When your kids did something good, do not only simply say" good job", show more interest by asking" how did you do it" " Can you show me" " Why you did it this way", so those questions will get your kids talk about things that they are good at, in turn this will boost their self-confidence.
My kids will grow happy, healthy and full, with good personality and confidence to try things new. I don't take the marks seriously , does not mean that i don't take her education seriously. At their age ( 4-12), how to get them interest in learning is the most important part, not how many 'A"s she has got or how many Kumon classes she has taken.
So work with your kids, guide her or him and show her/him what they can achieve ( even tiny thing), you will open their minds and that will lead them to greater success in life ( not only a good job, good money, but good life)
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